How life changes people?

Often you can hear people say that somebody has changed, the live changed and everything is different right now. The changes are unavoidable.  Reality changes, people change. The opportunities, experience, life challenges, hard choices change them. John F. Kennedy once said that: “change is the law of life…”.

Today is a great day and it inspired me to write a short reflection about changes.  Often you can hear people say that somebody has changed, the live changed and everything is different now. From time to time, those are critical voices, sometimes skeptical or otherwise – full of hope.

The changes are unavoidable.  It is important to mention, because this is a chain of live. Reality changes, people change. Which make them to see the world from different perspective. There is nothing wrong with that. This can cause a situation, when people who do not see each other for a long time have grown apart.  What does it mean?  Is this an important issue in our lives?  How is it affecting us?

As the answer to those questions we can tell a little story about two people who knew each other for a long time, from the childhood. They were in the same preschool, in the same school and so on. When they went to the college, their lives have changed. Different educational institutions, different live experience influenced their vision of the world, affected believes. They became strangers to each other.

We’re not talking about financial side of the story; we’re not talking about a career path. We just try to take a closer look at consequences of life changing events.

Those persons used to leave in different cities, had to deal with different cultural environments, communicate with different people. All of this was a life changing journey.  Their minds enriched with new ideas and ideals, and environment in the meaning of financial abilities and opportunities gave them a new vision of their future.

After some time, when they met again, something was between them.  This barrier was the way of thinking and acting.  It was clearly, said sometimes say have an opposite ideas. It is usually natural, because every one of us has it is own, unique solutions and resolutions.  In this case it was a bit different, because their personalities changed.  They acted as the strangers.

It was obvious, that experience that they got in different cities affected them.  They grew apart almost in all meaning including: outlook on life, financial accountability, social status. It is very possible that every one got his own arrogance and assertiveness.

This is how people grow apart. The opportunities, experience, life challenges, hard choices change them. Even circles that they belong to, affect a behavior and the life style.  In fact, those changes can be for the best, but sometimes it is otherwise. The best way to deal with it is to find a balance in the life and move on.

John F. Kennedy once said that: “change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future”.  He was absolutely right.  Those who hold on to the past has a problem to see the future, those who only care about the present neither see the future nor learn from past.  And third types are those who just wait for the future and do not enjoy the present (if there is something to enjoy to).  That is the point where future is welcomed and past is past, and present is between it.

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